Grosse Pointers Come Together – Not Apart

Aaron Foley, noted local author and editor, first reported that three women felt they were racially-discriminated against at a local eatery in Grosse Pointe Farms on Saturday February 18, 2017.  While I initially suspected that this was a simple miscommunication, I remained relatively quiet on the issue. Forgoing my usual barrages of demanding proof and evidence of the accusations levied against one of our small-business owners. As picketers mobbed the small business hurling accusations of racism, the lawyer of the proprietor quietly held a press conference at another local small business, where he showed evidence contradicting the claims of three Grosse Pointe women. In the light of this evidence, I feel I have to come forward and submit my view of the subject.

There is something wrong in America today when relatively young, successful, attractive, and presumably educated, women feel they are victims. These women are our neighbors in a community that mimics the national demography in terms of race, but not in income or educational attainment. It is wrong for them to feel like victims in their own community for simply being asked to move from a bar. These women, in other lights, should be held up as role models to others; not nailing themselves to the cross of victimhood. In short, the social justice warrior mentality has gone too far. We must reverse this dangerous and counterproductive course our nation and community is on.

One of the three women in question went as far as filing assault charges against the manager of the establishment. Though, video evidence of the allegations would suggest that no assault occurred. After the new evidence came to the public’s attention, cries for retaliatory justice weren’t far behind. False accusations of assault and racism do not sit well with me, but I think we, as a community, need to take a different tack.

We need to embrace our neighbors. They should be given the opportunity to drop their charges and move on with their lives. Their unwarranted and unfounded allegations were not hurled in a vacuum. At one time, Grosse Pointe was not the welcoming community it is today. It is something we have to live with. That is not to say these allegations were not heinous and wrong and that the accusers were not wrong. It is to say that we should forgive each other for the past and move forward together to build a stronger community. These women are Grosse Pointers after all, and we take care of each other. Even if, we might not have been entirely in the right.

  • Thoughtfully said, sir. I admire your insights and reminder of historic context, as well as your embrace of tolerance and neighborliness.

    • Thank you for reading and your kind words.